How do you start a healthy romantic relationship from the ?beginning
Honestly most people get into relationships without even asking themselves if they’re really ready or not
It’s not just about feelings and butterflies and wanting to love and be loved
There are things that need to be clear before anything starts
First you have to know who you are and what you want from a relationship
Like are you getting into it to escape loneliness or to actually build something meaningful with someone
That question alone shapes the whole direction of the relationship
If you’re not connected with yourself your relationship will probably feel confusing and full of unmet expectations
And expectations are the first door to disappointment
?Are there signs that a relationship might be healthy
Yeah of course
But remember those signs don’t have to be perfect
Healthy relationships aren’t free from problems
But there’s respect
There’s honesty
There’s a feeling of safety
You can talk without fear
You can disagree without losing each other
You can be yourself without acting or pressure
And if someone really wants to know the real you not just be impressed by you in the beginning that’s a good sign
?Communication is a big deal right so how do we learn to really talk and understand each other
Yeah for real communication is like the backbone of any relationship
But wow it’s not easy
A lot of people think they’re good communicators when really they’re just talking
Real communication starts with listening
Like really listening
Not interrupting
Not planning your reply while the other person is still talking
Ask to understand not to prove a point
And also be clear
Some people think mystery is attractive
But in romantic relationships mystery can turn into doubt and insecurity
Say what you feel even if it’s simple
The sweet words
The things that bother you
The worries you carry
All of that if said kindly and honestly makes the bond stronger
Okay but what if a fight happens what then
Fights are natural
If there are no fights at all maybe someone’s always holding back
But the important thing is how you fight
Some people treat arguments like battles where one wins and the other loses
But in a healthy relationship the one that wins should be the relationship itself
Instead of thinking how to convince the other person
Think how you can both reach understanding
Take time if you need to calm down
But come back and talk
Don’t let things pile up inside
And here’s something to always keep in mind
Pick your battles
Not everything is worth the fight
But at the same time don’t ignore the stuff that hurts you until it explodes
What’s the difference between mature love and emotional love like in the movies
Oh this one’s deep
Love in movies is usually all about excitement
A look
A word
A passionate moment
But real love shows up after time
After you see someone in their low moments
When they’re tired
When they’re anxious
Mature love is when you feel safe just being you
When you feel supported even when you mess up
When you miss them not because they complete you
But because they share life with you
The difference between the two is like fire versus a warm dinner
Fire is thrilling but it burns
A warm dinner is calm and comforting
And mature love feels like that warm dinner
So how do you know if you’re really in a mature relationship
You feel like you’re growing not shrinking
You laugh from the heart but also face the tough stuff honestly
You don’t feel like you have to be some perfect version of yourself to be loved
You make mistakes and you say sorry
And you feel loved even on your worst days
You don’t just find a lover
You find a home
Is love alone enough
Sadly no
Love is very important but it’s not enough on its own
You also need respect
Understanding
The ability to talk things out
And most of all acceptance
Accepting the person as they are
Not trying to fix them
Or needing them to fix you
If you go into a relationship just to heal each other
You’ll probably end up hurt
But if you’re building something together
That’s when beautiful things grow between you
So in the end
Romantic relationships aren’t perfect projects
They’re like a plant that needs regular care
They might not always be full of passion
But they need to be full of deep respect
And the one who deserves you
Is the one who sees you and reflects you in their eyes
Without needing you to act
Or making you afraid to just be
